Bible, SEX and what not...

I guess I'll start with the Bible to give new people a generalization of how I view things.
I don't get Christians. Never have never will. Not only do you have to believe Jesus Christ was God/Son of, you have to worship and respect that God. I mean, this IS the same God who lied, confused and even changed his mind. You can't even defend him with the human "He didn't know any better" defense that most bigots and racists that grow from their folly have. Most humans can blame their beliefs and behaviors on how they were raised and educated but God has no such logical reasoning.
I mean the message delivered by Jesus can be considered noble and all that, but to make him more than a man means to connect him to a divinity that can't even relate/recall what he made first. He is the same divinity that lied to Adam and Eve and punished them when they discovered that he lied (Eat from the tree and you will surely die - they lived/discovered he lied - got punished for it). The same divinity that made women property (father to husband, rape made the FATHER the victim and women had to be paid for and even forced to marry the rapist in some cases), allowed/encouraged slavery, and revenge.
Even if you like the message Jesus gave; equality, turn the other cheek instead of getting revenge, etc you still end up with a God that changed his stance on things. You still have to believe, worship and respect the OT God. After all God can't gain enlightenment so what gives? I respect a racist more when they LEARN to see things differently because at least they weren't enlightened in the beginning. They GREW from their existence and learned better but if God is Alpha and Omega, there is NO room TO grow.
Christians further confuse me by being all over the place. JW's don't believe in blood transfusions but others do. Amish don't believe in letting women wear men's clothing and men are the heads of households. Some Christian females will put a napkin on their head when praying at the table just too keep up that abhorrent tradition of subjugation to man symbolism. Most Christians will not blink at women wearing pants or taking charge yet still rant and rave about gays or abortion. If one says the Bible is flawed because it is God's words but was written down by/influenced by/translated by man (and therefore Slavery is immoral and women in power is moral after all) then what is flawed and what is sacrosanct? How can you defend some parts as the Word of God and hand wave away others as man's influence tainting it or grow beyond it?
At least be consistent.
I mean if life begins at conception no matter what, what is the difference between aborting a rape victim's conception, an ectopic pregnancy termination and the abortion of a prostitute. How can supporting rape abortions be anything other than really saying you just want to punish sex and since rape isn't voluntary sex she gets a waver while the promiscuous one doesn't? After all, the rape victim isn't the only one with feelings and in danger of psychological problems due to pregnancy so using that defense is complete bull, at least admit you want to prevent abortion because you want to punish those that have sex and get off your high horse. You either want to punish the ones who choose to have sex by forcing parenthood on her or forcing motherhood (Women who are birth mothers STILL suffer so saying she can just put it up for adoption is completely stupid and more than likely will damage/affect her more than an abortion ever could. After all the unknown is worse than the known.) And for those who dislike abortion even in cases of rape, the whole it isn't the babies fault how it came into the world and it is God's will then how is ectopic pregnancies any different? After all isn't it God's will to place the pregnancy where both will die? Isn't saving the mother's life contrary to God's plan? If you can alter the plan in one instance then why freak when someone else wants to in another? And if it is God plan for that ectopic pregnancy to die, like a natural miscarriage, then wouldn't He plan for abortion too? Or do you consider God Galactic-ally Stupid?